Through the power of love and imagination, we turn ordinary moments into human moments. I have defined human moments as those moments when we feel closely connected to someone or something outside of ourselves (God, family, friends), and in the presence of something that matters, which we call meaning.
Anything that blocks love or imagination blocks human moments. That block can be simple, like being in too much of a hurry; or can be complex, like having been badly hurt by a certain group of people. Resentment can then rein us in and prevent us from reaching out. Habit can also block human moments as we get used to seeing the world in a certain way, and we do not open ourselves up to a new view.
As much as we crave close connections and the human moments they create, we also fear them. We fear anything new, we fear getting close to others and we fear opening ourselves up. As much as we want to, we also do not want to. So, we choose to hold back. The obstacle to love, in this case, is our own choice. This is perhaps the greatest obstacle of all: a person’s choice to hold back.
Having said that, this paragraph will contain one of my principles in life. If you find that you are holding back more than you wish you would, if you find that fears takes over when you try to connect, then you might do is pick a safe situation – like a conversation with God/family/friend – and talk about fears. Once you address your hesitation as a problem, and once you start to talk about it in confidence with trusted others, then the problem will start to shrink away. You will start to come up with strategies and solutions. Furthermore, just the fact that you are having a close conversation with another person will begin to give you more confidence – confidence that you can use to widen your circle of connectedness.
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